Thursday, June 19, 2008

Reality checks

I was talking to a friend the other day and i was explaining some issues that i was going through and how they made me feel. But instead of just comforting and agreeing with me, i was given a slap of reality. Though i didn't like what was said, it was indeed true. So i was forced to look at the whole situation rather than my side of it, like I always advise my friends to do.
However, I find that this same friend was not able to take this reality dose and appreciate as I did. My friend blew up on me, and also thought it was good to risk our friendship. These incidents made me wonder "is it easier to give reality checks and point out others' wrongdoing and faults, than to be able to accept that we are not always right, perfect, and justified?"
Does it bother us that the people that we call our friends are willing to hurt us for the betterment of our lives and mentality? Or do we secretly desire for our friends to silently renege on their promise to do what is best for us because they love us? Do we prefer invisible betrayal or bold and colorful agreement that equate to inner lies?

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